Quit online dating
To make matters worse, the longer I stayed online the more I noticed that the compatibility/match scores are pretty much BS. Trudging through the let’s-get-to-know-each-other conversations reminded me of job networking events: more often than not, a lot is said but nothing useful is gained.Very rarely did a high compatibility score translate into genuine interest or chemistry once the messaging got going. After a while, talking about my background and listening to other people talk about their backgrounds over and over again became more of a chore than something that I looked forward to. There’s no place that this is more true than in online dating. I mean, who doesn’t like data driven results free of nonsensical human biases? Online dating therefore seems like the most logical and natural course of action in my pursuit of a suitable partner.” I wrote these words on my at the start of my online dating journey in late 2014.Since then, my attitude towards online dating has changed quite considerably, finally culminating in me calling it quits. Well, here are a few of my top reasons for why I quit online dating: Finding a decent person to date through an online platform is a numbers game that requires patience.I went on a slew of bad dates, and the worst one put me over the edge.Within five minutes of meeting me, the guy asked me if I was getting my master's degree to increase my salary since, 'teachers don't make very much money.' My jaw was on the floor.He said he was a chef and wanted to start a "meals for the homeless program." He talked about his the light of his life being his two little girls and how they inspired him. He shared stories of fatherhood that would have melted the hardest of hearts, but brought this single mother to tears.
Although a number of my friends have met their significant others through Tinder, I still haven't come to terms with having to devise a 'how we met' story. I'm not constantly reminded or harassed about my relationship status.It sucks to get excited about a person based of the pack of lies they’ve called a profile, only to be let down once the truth is revealed.I became worn out and overly skeptical as a result of experiencing this type disappointment repeatedly.His message was a brief compliment on her smile, he wasn’t batting out of his league looks-wise and he was 5’10” (2-3” taller than her).Perhaps unspectacular on first impression, but certainly underserving of that reaction. After I systematically challenged each of her arguments, she finally blurted out: “well he doesn’t meet my checklist!